Why I am no longer living according to a “plan”

Many of us grow up believing that milestones in life will happen in a certain order and at a certain age.

I grew up thinking that I had to go to university the moment I got out of high school and I had to graduate on time (both of which I did do). I also grew up having everything planned out in my head: university, career, marriage, kids etc. It’s as though this fairytale sequence of events was embedded in to my mind. It must have been from watching Disney movies as a child because I don’t know a single person who lives out a perfect fairytale in real life.

Believe it or not, I even used to believe that certain things would have an age limit, and if I didn’t achieve them then it would be too late for me. I didn’t want to be an “old mom”, or get married “too late”, I was afraid of being “behind”. Which really makes no sense as I’ve had classmates that were double my age in first year university classes.

I am consciously choosing not to live that way anymore. I don’t believe that setting time frames are healthy or reasonable to follow. By following the rigid timeframe I had in mind, I was making myself anxious and worried. Worried that I was behind and that I would run out of time.

I no longer have a desire to plan that way, although I have strong aspirations and goals, I do not want to set a time frame on when milestones must happen. Things will happen for me exactly when they have to and when the time is right. I have learned that nothing good comes out of rigid living and pushing to meet milestones according to some silly made-up deadlines.

Once I stopped controlling the way I live I discovered more of myself and my own passions. I learned more about what I want and don’t want. I learned that I want to just LIVE in my 20s and not put a date on everything that is going to happen.

It’s never too late to go back to school, to finish off that degree, to start a new career, to get married, to have kids, to buy/rent your first home or to buy your first car. Live with goals and dreams, work hard towards them, but do not put a deadline on when things must happen. Allow everything to unfold naturally.

If you made it all the way to the end of this post, I hope that all is well with you. I appreciate you for reading this and I apologize for being M.I.A for the past little while.

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